There is a moment in between the duct tape, the office door, and the kids’ soccer practice – a timeless moment for you and your beloved to say, “Dance with me”. At that moment you, the goddess, open with an unspoken invitation to take all of you. Your man opens to his god and responds with adoring worship. Time stands still as, heart to heart, you see yourself mirrored in your beloved’s eyes – two as one in wholeness.
In this whirling blender of our lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the frantic scurrying of our days and forget who we really are. Maybe the weeks fly by with little accomplished for all that effort, yet we feel compelled to tread the same donkey path with that carrot just slightly out of reach.
When that happens to me, I feel alone, fragile, and all too vulnerable. But, if I have just one moment that I can count on - an anchor that draws me back down into the essence of me - the world stops and its worries lose their power, enabling me to regenerate.
“But,” you say, “I have no partner. How do I get my moment?” Even if you don’t have a partner to share that moment, you can create your own ritual to anchor yourself. Although I have no partner, I love to dance; I put on special music, close my eyes, and surrender to the synchronicity of movement and sound. (If I’m in my car, I tap on the steering wheel in time to the music and sing along to my heart’s content – you can imagine the looks I get from other drivers!)
A single, male friend of mine finds his moment in the stillness of meditation. If you’re not sure what might be sacred to you, you can simply lie on the floor and experience the marvel of your deep and rhythmic breath.
Author, Spencer Johnson, in his wonderful book, One Minute for Myself, gives us a good reason for creating our moment. “When I take better care of myself, I can take better care of others.” He also begs you to check in frequently and ask yourself the question, “Is there a better way I could be taking care of myself right now?”
What you, or you and your partner, decide to do with this time is entirely your choice. The most important part is that you honor yourself enough to create space for this sacred gift that only you can give. At first, it will take some effort and conscious focus to generate the habit of allowing that moment. If you make it the one ritual that sticks, no matter what, I guarantee that it will enrich your life!